I did one of those “personality-type” quizzes and came up with being an “INFJ”. All of the personality types are based on the Myers-Briggs Personality Types and are summed up on how you answer the posted questions. There are 16 different “personality types”. My “type” is said to be one of the rarest types which is why this caught my interest.
The “I” in my type stands for being an “introvert”. Very few who know me would think that I am introverted! I can be the life-of-the-party; I can talk to anyone! But being in the “limelight” is exhausting! While I can be very outgoing, for short periods of time, I live “out in the country” avoiding “going into town” unless absolutely necessary (or when I just need a break from the quiet). And because I CAN talk to anyone, I usually have people confide their life-story to me while rarely divulging much about myself. It isn’t unusual for people to think they know me well after talking to me. This always makes me smile because I generally don’t say anything “real” especially about myself! There are very few people I would call “close friends” which, at times, makes me very sad.
The “N” stands for “Intuition”. I ALWAYS go with “my feelings” in any situation. While I certainly can look at any given situation objectively, it is those subjective feelings that inadvertently tend to be correct. I never used to tell people, outside of my immediate family, “my feelings” because it isn’t like I can predict the lottery numbers! I can, however, predict how and why people are behaving or reacting in any given situation that hasn’t happened yet. And I tend to be right later when my “predictions” come true! In reading about this personality type more, “they” say it has to do with sensing patterns in nature and behavior? I can’t say that I see “patterns” per se but… when I think about things, as they come to me, those feelings tend to be freaky accurate. I think it has less to do with specific patterns but more focused on my personal value system which makes any other value systems stand out to me in conversations or actions? More like a sense or impression of intentions? But… who knows? It really is just a “gut feeling”. My family recognizes my gut feelings; I’ve often been asked to evaluate various situations but it isn’t something I would admit to most people. It just sounds “weird” even to me. I can’t explain it but I just “know” things!
“F” stands “Feeling” which may go along with intuition especially when making decisions? It also has to do with a strong sense of empathy to others and in believing others should also have that sense of empathy. I find it terribly discouraging to realize that many do NOT really have much empathy… remember those conversations with others where they spill their guts about this problem or that? Why DON’T they ask about the real me? There is nothing worse than my saying something that is very important to me and receiving a “mmm-hmm” response! Really? Sadly, that happens all too often. I used to (and maybe still do?) have a problem saying “no” to people. Now, I’ve cultivated “boundaries” to protect myself from saying “yes” when I really want to say “no”. Still, I’m often angry at myself for forgetting those boundaries or not insisting they be respected. That anger turned outward is really directed at myself for not respecting MY boundaries that I’ve said I would have. I end up being very frustrated at myself for being taken advantage of without reciprocation but really… It is my fault to begin with for saying “yes”, sigh! Understanding my personality type, especially as I’ve grown older, has helped me protect me from… myself!
“J” is for “judgement”. It is a form of perfectionism I expect for myself. Not always for others but definitely for myself. I don’t lose things; I know exactly where I put things. I say and do everything with intention. And while I try to not let a lot of little things bother me, I do expect things to be done in a specific way. It can seem I’m “obsessive-compulsive” at times which I’m really not; I just want things done “right”! That judgement can seem harsh, at times, even intense but the expectations I may place on others isn’t any different from the expectations I place on myself. I don’t lie, cheat or steal and have a huge problem when other people can carelessly lie even about trivial things. “High expectations”? Maybe? Just don’t lie, especially to me… I can tell when you are lying!
If anyone is interesting in taking a personality test to see what their type is, you can take the test here. If you are at a crossroads in your life, your personality type may clarify why you are in situations that may be distressing to you. It might give you a sense of direction for navigating your life? Perhaps even better help you understand yourself. Those preferences you have in life can help explain why you feel the way you do and why you make the choices you make… over and over again. At least, that is how I hope it will help me.